They comes of age

There are many reasons why I like doing crossword puzzles in general and the New York Times crossword in particular. One is that I learn things.

How is it that I didn’t hear that the singular form of they was named Merriam-Webster’s word of the year for 2019 back when that happened in early December? This embarasses me as an editor, and especially as a former news editor – although perhaps that’s a partial excuse, since the AP Stylebook long ago (2017) started accepting a singular form of they.

Shame-faced though I be, I’m also delighted by they‘s selection. As an old fuddie-duddie (fun note: spellcheck wanted to make that fudge-duddie) I’ll confess that I was uncomfortable with the singular they for a long time, and it still doesn’t trip off my tongue. But I’m pleased that our culture is moving toward accepting people where they are, and there are lots of people for whom the gendered pronouns he and she are just uncomfortable. No one should have to be made uncomfortable by the language with which they and others talk about themselves. So hooray for they and its increasingly accepted singular meaning.

But how about that Post Office?

As pleased as I am by Merriam-Webster, I’m disappointed today by the U.S. Post, which returned one of my Christmas cards because it had the wrong address—even though the Post Office knew the forwarding address for the person I was trying to reach.

I understand that rules are rules, and I wouldn’t want the Post Office to have to promise to continue forwarding anyone’s mail for all eternity. But when the person has only moved across town, and postal workers can identify the correct forwarding address in order to provide it to me on the envelope, then couldn’t they just send the letter on to the correct destination, rather than return it to me halfway across the country?

  • It would be a better service to both me and the friend who will now wait an extra week for that late Christmas card.
  • It would have a smaller environmental footprint.

It’s really the second point that saddens me most. I’m trying to reduce my environmental footprint in a whole lot of ways, and it would have been nice if my government hadn’t worked at cross-purposes with me on this.

Ah, well. It’s but one small complaint among many I have with my current federal government, and I still prefer having government-run mail to having this service privatized. I’ll complain about Amtrak, too, all the while knowing that the problem is years and years of under-funding rather than any inherent devaluing of public transportation.

On a happier note…

Rather than end with a complaint, I’ll choose, as one of my friends consciously does every day, to close in gratitude.

My son texted last week with the surprise news that he has completed a master’s degree. This wasn’t in itself unexpected; he’s in a doctoral program, and the master’s is an expected way station. But he had thought he had more coursework to complete for it, and that turns out not to be the case. He’s attending a public university, and I’m grateful that it has the funding to provide his full-tuition funding along with a stipend for research work.

Again, hooray for public institutions. Speaking of which, my library had just the book I was looking for when I realized yesterday that I wanted it. I’m always grateful for public libraries. Also librarians.

Rituals of thanks

I’ve shouted “Thank you!” out the back door and put pie No. 2 in the oven. (Pie No. 1 happened last night.) Now is my moment for self-reflection. And on Thanksgiving day, that means remembering the many reasons I have to give thanks.

  • I’m most thankful, as always, for the continued safety and health of those I love. This includes the grown son living half a continent away, where I can no longer keep an eye on him but can still worry. In an increasingly scary world, my Thanksgiving prayer from a year ago still holds true.
  • It also includes the two dogs who are part of my family, including one diagnosed this year with chronic heart disease. That diagnosis accompanied a health crisis for her, but she’s responding well to medication and still quite capable of both frolic and fury. Her younger (12-year-old!) brother is graying but happy and healthy.

  • I’m thankful that my mother’s and grandmothers’ recipes and kitchen tools keep them close to me during holidays, and that I’m able now to pass these recipes on to my son, my nieces and my nephews.
  • I’m grateful to be among the privileged who have enough financial resources that I neither have to shop nor work on Thanksgiving, nor stand in line waiting for Black Friday deals.
  • I’m thankful to be off work this week and for the resurgence in creativity this vacation has brought me. Here’s what I did yesterday in between cooking obligations and reading:
  • I’m thankful for the many friends around me, who are my extended family and sustain me both at work and at home. I’m thankful to count my family members among my friends.
  • Not least, I give thanks for art and literature, which sustain our souls, and for the Muse of Poetry, who descended on me not much more than a year ago. She helps center me and makes my life richer.

What would Thanksgiving be without pie? Here’s the first of three we’re bringing to Thanksgiving dinner this year. All credit for the dough sculpting goes to my talented husband (whose writings and some of whose cartoons can be found here).

I’m constantly surprised by people who are impressed by the fact that I make pie crust from scratch. It’s not hard. Honestly. Here’s how.

Can’t access WordPress? I just wait.

It’s the lazy person’s solution and today a gift from the gods.

I lost administrative access to this site a couple of months ago. I did some quick searching to find the solution and got as far as figuring out that it meant I had to figure out how to access the back end – through the server, specifically through something called PhpMyadmin. If that means nothing to you, you don’t need to know more. I think I’ve seen PhpMyadmin at some point in my time writing this blog, but I really have no idea how to get in there. Being a busy girl with demands on my time, I had to take an unwanted hiatus from posting because I didn’t have time to figure out the fix.

Today I mustered the energy … and discovered the problem had solved itself. So here I am again, courtesy of the gods and goddesses of blogging and creativity and coding.

Actually, the gods and goddesses of creativity have shined on me this week. I’m taking a much-needed week off work, escaping the huge project that has been eating up 50+ hours per week for several months. I shut my work computer down Friday night, and aside from a couple of hours of final tidying yesterday I’ve no plans to fire it back up again unless I’m summoned back for an emergency. Continue reading

Labors of love

Labor Day weekend found me in my happy place in Michigan, reading and writing, beaching, loving on my aging dogs, and enjoying the company of dear friends. I wrote a couple of poems whose staying power remains uncertain—I’ll revisit them in a couple of weeks to see if they feel right—and was thrilled to get an acceptance letter from a new online poetry journal. My Labor Day labors might not bear any fruit, but labors that preceded them did, and that feels good. I’ll share details when the poem is actually published; meanwhile, I bask in acceptance. Continue reading

Summer haiku 2

Yesterday’s summer haiku challenge from NPR has sent me toodling down memory lane. Three haiku apparently weren’t enough, so I keep flashing back to new memories of summers long gone.

Blink, and I’m looking at the two-acre plot at the back edge of our rural property where my mom made her vegetable garden. Rows and rows of corn and beans, potatoes, onions, radishes, tomatoes, peas, blueberries and blackberries, zucchini that grew to the size of Whiffle ball bats…more than I can remember. I see my mother crouching between rows, weeding and harvesting, filling up bushel baskets with each day’s plenty. Continue reading